The Intention Behind The Appreciation Positive judgments are still problematic judgments. Example: “It was kind of you to…” “You are a...
Resolving Internal Conflicts Depression is indicative of a state of alienation from our own needs. Internal thoughts like “should”,...
When The Use of Force is Unavoidable Dialog is great but sometimes the opportunity for dialog may not exist, and force is necessary. The...
Human Connection Creating a connection between the people who are in conflict is the most important thing. The parties need to know from...
Hurting people is one of the weakest ways to express our anger. The goal of nonviolence is not to stifle anger, but to express it in...
Evaluating Ourselves When We’ve Been Less Than Perfect We chastise ourselves in non-constructive ways when we screw up. Shame and guilt...
Empathy That Heals Listening empathically to someone (no advice, etc) can really relieve the other person’s tension. Ending the...
Don’t Just Do Something. Stand There! Empathy is emptying our mind and listening with our whole being. The presence that empathy...
. Use positive language when making requests! Example of negative language: Asking someone not to do something. Instead, request what...
Hearing a Negative Message: Four Options What others say or do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but not the cause. When someone...
“I feel that…” When you use “that” after feel, you are likely not revealing your feelings. Adequately expressing feelings is...
Separate the observation from the evaluation. If you say both in one go, people are more likely to interpret it as criticism and resist....
Moralistic Judgments Moralistic judgments are “life-alienating” communications. The focus tends to be on analyzing wrongness then...
The NVC Components: Observations: State the facts Feelings: State your feelings Needs: State your needs connected to your feelings Make...