The three most common motivations for doing anything: Making money, finding love, or changing the world. So to connect with others, be a financial guru, a sex therapist and a do-gooder.
Barring intimidation, the only way to get someone to do something is to recognize their importance and make them feel important. Do it by taking an interest in them and their mission. Help people achieve their deepest desires.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said:
Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn from him.
Three things that engender deep emotional bonds between people: Health, wealth and children. There are many ways to help people, but helping in one of these is much more powerful.
Make sure you can walk the talk. Never be or appear false.
The most successful people are givers who have a high degree of self interest - not “matchers” who keep score.